Music's Place

What an interesting question. A question with an age exceeding that of the pyramids I’m sure. How does one ever know whether the woman chosen is the right one for them? Well it helps if you have that "cloudy headed" feeling for starters. More important is that the woman reciprocates the feeling and just when you think you’re safe here there is more (and no… it’s not a free set of steak knives unless of course they are thrown at you by a disgruntled partner (jinkies I’m a dag)) We all know that the old love vibe is only a bundle of chemicals floating around the mind which in my guess is a natural phenomena propagated by our creator to ensure the survival of our species although it is a wonderful feeling and worth enjoying while it lasts. Who am I to even discuss such an area? No I’m not Dr Phil, Doc Love or Oprah and may have no real authority on the subject, just a regular guy (sort of) babbling about a topic that he felt like babbling about today. The choice of right woman in personal opinion is never a fixed variable with a myriad of avenues to consider before reaching a point that is not fixed anyway for as humans we have free wills and evolve at different rates and varying ways which at times may mean the person you met is no longer that person nor are you the person that the other person has met and there alone is the rub. Continuing along…

Mentality

Our current mental state and thoughts plays an important role on who we’ll consider engaging (in a relationship that is) no need to seek a blood diamond to decorate your prospective partner with yet. When I say mental state it is far from one dimensional as there are multiple avenues to consider for example "are you a misery guts or Pollyanna?" For rarely will you see a positive person dating a negative if they are operating at normal levels. Do you actually want a relationship? Some people such as self are relationship camels meaning that they can have a relationship then do without one for months and sometimes years (the list of such people include celebrities such as George Clooney though I hear he has just re-entered the date-o-sphere) now I don’t personally pretend to understand why this is possible nor am I placing myself at the celebrity level of Mr Clooney… perhaps we enjoy our own company or maybe we are excessively busy with limited time to devote to a relationship, maybe we are in some type of metamorphosis… who knows. That said no matter how much own company may be enjoyed from time to time the primal urge takes hold and should an overwhelming craving to satisfy that primal urge arise then a night out will normally satisfy that urge in our ever promiscuous society (not bothered going out?) then in existence there are numerous dating sites with a subscriber count probably exceeding 100 million and if you have no luck there… then I’m sorry and I am also sorry for going of tangent here back on track now. As said mentality is a key factor to consider whether you are willing to re-enter the sea and swim with other fish (for more then 1 night that is) if you are after the one night fix then this posts title will be irrelevant to yourself.

Physical attraction

No I talk not of the BMI proportion of somebody, their waist-hip ratio or their facial symmetry for that matter when bringing up physical attractiveness (though they may play a part in what you determine to be attractive) The topic of attraction can easily generate a thesis by itself as I have limited myself to 20 minutes to finish this post a thesis is not plausible (only hope it is semi-coherent by the time it’s finished). As everyone will have their own hardwired definitions of what they consider attractive and believe it or not there must be an element of physical attraction otherwise there is no need to ask is she the one for me and I’ll expand here as for the life of me I have no idea why some women I walk past will not raise a brow while what could be considered her twin in appearance has me frothing at the mouth like some rabid dog combined with a twitching in the nether regions. This oddity only occurred as early as last week while strolling through Leichhardt marketplace where a beautiful blond who I was impelled to stop and have a chat once the saliva from mouth edges had been wiped away of course. Quick newsflash for the fellas out there: The women want to meet decent guys just as much as we want to meet decent girls (definition of decent pending). Could it be their posture or elegant stride? Unable to say although can easily state that physical attraction was there.

Initial Contact and Communication

OK this is the make or break point after our red-lining of the internal attractometre. Now the sounds sent out via this lovely being standing in front of you will definitely set course for what is to follow. There are voices I hear which possess the mythical siren like qualities and send any listener to their shipwreck and of course voices that sound like sirens. I’m sure the creatures delivering their words are well aware of this fact. Along with tonality there is the fact that the woman speaking to you may think you are a pile of stupidity and worse still is when the finding flows the other way (time for evasive manoeuvres) Probably should not be casting stones from the glass house of Music’s Place as there have been some truly heinous posts which probably includes this one that belong in the realms of the aforementioned. You’ve exchanged greetings and now the fun begins are you going to be asked for your CV or will it all flow beautifully? Time will tell.

Longevity

Longevity is again a factor dependent on personal mental disposition at the time so this point more then likely belongs under the mentality sub-heading (can you tell I am typing this after an arvo out with friends at a BBQ for those unaware of what a standard barbeque entails with mates this means a few beers were consumed). Point is are you ready? Are they ready to engage in an affair that will last longer then a pilot episode that never took in prime time? Reason for introducing this point is the simple fact that even if you meet someone who could be perfect for you on all counts and an example that comes to mind was this wonderful English teacher well versed in philosophy who managed to tickle the right areas of grey matter within self and as for what is coming in paragraph below ‘forget about it’ quote from an Italian Mafioso are current words that come to mind. This wonderful woman was an experience of pure magic from go to its agreed mutual end. I mean this one-two month affair could easily be played in a (Tom Hanks/Meg Ryan chick flick) you know the one where the whole night zips by in a blink yet at the same time feels an eternity. Fact of the matter both of us were scared shitless of the powerful emotions and instantly zipped to logical processing as a form of self-protectionism and ultimately an illogical exit. We did try the friends thing after a month apart and alas the emotions were too strong and had us both fail at the platonic level.

Sexual Compatibility

Do you enjoy sex with each other at both conscious and unconscious levels? If you find you’d rather get it off with warm apple pie then your other half then that will be a resounding ‘no’ as an answer to this articles question for you at least. (of course if you practice Christianity and wish to abstain may god be kind to you both when you make that leap). Why bring up the sexual point? Well it is important isn’t it?

Proximity

Chances are if your chosen partner lives in Uzbekistan and has no desire to relocate to your locality and for some bizarre reason you have no inclination to relocate there then we can safely assume a ‘no’ in answer to the question. That said there are some positives to long-distance affairs.

Paranormal & biological

Is there something beyond logical reasoning to shine light on this q? Could there be truth to the term soul-mates? A spooky phenomena not definable within a laboratory nor by ours simple limited logic, was this woman your slain spouse in a past life? worse still what if they were your twin brother in a past life which may give reason to why the both of you cannot progress to an intimate relationship whoa scary concept and one which cannot be proven true or false and could easily take more words then I could be bothered typing now. Could it be that your bodies unconscious detective systems have locked onto a mate that is suited to you in order to produce healthy offspring did one of your defective chromosomes trigger an unconscious signal to say ‘hey stupid’ this woman’s DNA has a cytosine molecular structure that will wipe out our defective guanine or whatever. Maybe the stench we exude is another element that will have women breaking their normal psyche should they be connected enough and listen to their own primal urges. Between you and me… there are so many parts of me that will regret hitting the go button to publish this quickly hacked spew as it really did deserve so much more effort then what went into it and my only defence is that I am now at 22 minutes which has already put me into overtime leaving no time for review or addition (at least until a later date). Oh hum there is always the next post to redeem self with. Sleep well.